Facebook has done something wonderful for me.
Our relationships are a bit like the gossamer threads of a spider web. That’s me in the middle, where the threads lead to and are most abundant. The people who have touched my life somewhere along the corridors of time, either directly through me or someone I know, are the multitude of filaments that fan out around me.
Facebook lets us touch a person we don’t live near, who came into our life for a reason, or a season, and now we move in different circles, out in the periphery. But there is a connection. In my world, yesterday’s special anniversary was the conduit for an explosion of cyber space hugs, smiles, tears, and remembering.
On the anniversary of my son’s death, thirteen years ago, I posted a picture of Nicholas. Through my post, memories of Nicholas, and the way he made people feel, stirred inside the hearts of the people in my Facebook family. A bright river of meaningful words flowed: memories of silly him that make me laugh; poetic and spiritual prose that make me cry, and from those new to my life, who never met my son, a soft, comforting touch.
Email, or messenger, or texting would never have been able to bring so many people together. Following are just a few messages.
~ I miss him too. I remember the first time I met him. And my mom asked him what his name was and Nick said my name is Gloria. I will always remember my little buddy.
~The good thing is…the end of the story HERE… is NOT the end of the story!!!! Much more beauty, joy and love than we can ever begin to imagine…is waiting… just in the “next room”.
~ Miss you so much Nicky
~ “Come on baby with me were gonna fly away from here. Out of this curtained room, and this hospital grey will just disappear. You were my best 12 years”
Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened!
Nick, I never got the chance to know you, but you sound pretty awesome! Until we meet- may your rest be peaceful!
~ Your young man taught me one of my greatest life lessons the day he left Calgary (Alberta Children’s Hospital) for home….with a big smile on his face he said don’t cry I am ok! (I remember) Our two boys, Thomas and Nicholas saying goodbye to each other. (Nicholas passed away a few weeks later, and Thomas six months after).
~ His angel wings are the flutters you feel in your heart every time you think of him.
~ I wrote this the weekend after Nick passed. (January 2000 (“K” was 14 years old)).
I can’t believe that you are gone
Sometimes I even forget
You were always the one cracking jokes
Making people laugh
It’s such a mystery
How the people who least deserve it
Are taken from us
But as time slowly passes
As much as I am sad
I will be at peace
Knowing that you are now in a place
Where you feel no pain
Even though I can’t see you
I know that you are there
And every time I hear the sound of laughter
Or see a person smile
I will think of you
And the joy you brought to so many people
You will always have a place in my heart
And you will never be forgotten ♥
I think the really awesome thing is that in an effort to comfort me, Nicholas’ mother, in the sharing of hearts, the words posted on my Facebook page were a respite to everyone who visited.